Recently, I read an article on Yes & Yes about the thirty-one things blogger Sarah Von has learnt in her thirty-one years, and I thought I’d take a stab at it, albeit with twenty-three things.
1. Everything happens for a reason. This one I adopted from my mum. You can’t live with regrets, and as much as you might wish things were different, they aren’t. And you just have to live with that.
2. Embrace your inner geek/freak. Be proud of your passion for professional wrestling, dive into the multitude of magazines you own and work those housewife curlers whilst vacuuming the house to an ’80s soundtrack. And yes, I am using anecdotal material from yours truly, here!
3. Don’t be so quick to dispose of friends… In the past, I’ve been quick to end friendships over petty things.
4. … But don’t put up with shit. If someone makes you feel like crap, then that’s not someone you want to have in your life.
5. Not everything is black and white. In fact, most things aren’t. Especially not love.
6. How to get rid of a headache. I suffered from intense migraines (as well as insomnia, see below) from about the ages of eight to eighteen, with at least one per week that lasted for a few days. Let me tell you, all that experience will debilitating pain helped me to decipher which type of headache means what: there’s hunger headaches, when I haven’t been eating properly; bad posture headaches, which have the possibility of turning into massive migraines if not nipped in the bud right away; and unexplainable migraines, that can only be treated with heavy medication. Fifteen years later, and I’ve finally got it down!
7. How to cure insomnia. Turn off the technology at least one to two hours before lights out. Read. Resolve issues of stress/excitement/inspiration before closing your eyes (writing things down helps). And don’t stress about not being able to sleep; just deal with it the next night.
8. Beauty is pain (working out, waxing, control underwear, heels etc.), but…
9. … Comfort is the most important thing. And if you’re not comfortable at the gym, with your legs in the air, sporting a body stocking and/or in 6-inch Louboutins Payless, then it’s not worth it.
10. Be yourself. Everyone else is taken. Cliché, I know, but at the end of the day, you have to stay true to yourself and be who you want to be, not who others’ want you to be.
11. Embrace your paleness. Shun the sun. Work the skin that God gave you. And please, if you’re going to tan, make sure it’s faux. You don’t want to look like Leatherface when you’re forty, so remember the SPF30+.
12. The importance of correct spelling and grammar. Without propper spelling and grammer, wat wuld their be?
13. Inner peace will come in your own time. When I had my numerology chart done earlier this year, an emphasis was placed on the fact that I am often painfully aware when a problem exists, but I can only come to terms with/solve it in my own time. Don’t rush it.
14. Don’t be afraid to show your weaknesses. This is something that I have learnt, yes, but find very hard to put into practice.
15. Live alone for awhile. My first venture out of home was this year, and for the first six months I lived alone and loved it! Leaving home at 22 means I overstayed my welcome by about two years, and tensions were high between my mother and I. I’m so glad I had my own space for that time to do what I wanted, when I wanted, and to get some perspective in time to move in with someone else, my cousin, whom I’ve been living with for about two months now.
16. It’s all about family… which is one of the most important things to me.
17. … but sometimes you have to make your own family. They say “you can choose your friends, but you can’t choose your family”, and with good reason.
18. All you need is love books. If I could only take one thing to a deserted island/save one thing from my burning apartment/choose a favourite possession, it would be books. Without books, I wouldn’t be me.
19. Roll with the punches. I find this particularly useful in job interviews when they ask you how you deal with stress. Don’t sweat the small stuff.
20. Work with what you’ve got. There are some parts of my body I don’t like (thighs, anyone?), but all in all I love my body, and I just accentuate the things I like whilst camouflaging the things I don’t. And often when you do the former, it draws attention away from the latter.
21. Personal hygiene is the shiz. One of my greatest fears in life is not smelling nice. Hence the multitude of fragrance products in my home, and the constant presence of perfume in my handbag.
22. Sorry seems to be the hardest word. And for me, it is. Apologising is not something that comes easily to me, so I’m still working on swallowing my pride in order to say the hardest word.
23. A perfect pair of jeans has the ability to change your life. Or you can substitute jeans for LBD/shoes/white shirt/other classic item. Once you’ve found them, you can never go back.
[Yes & Yes] 31 Things I’ve Learned in 31 Years.
[The Early Bird Catches the Worm] Life by Numbers.
[The Early Bird Catches the Worm] Arm Candy.